Why this, why now
I’m playing around with the idea of trying to share some writing more regularly. I miss what I used to do on Facebook, frankly: write about whatever I was thinking about, sometimes personal, sometimes topical; sometimes irreverently, sometimes so seriously – and have an audience to react to it.
I’ve been off Facebook for ~6 years and can’t really imagine going back there. I’m pretty against Facebook as a platform, for one.
Could it work on substack? And what would I even talk about now? In some ways I feel like there’s a giant backlog of experiences and struggles that I haven’t shared about publicly or semi-publicly. Things like “the year we raised twin infants and a two year old in a pandemic with no professional childcare available to us” or “my decision to go on testosterone and get top surgery.”
Some of that is years old now too.
Then there are the things I’ve been thinking about lately. Transition experiences, transition milestones. The fraught act of choosing a school in a giant urban public school district when you are the one with wealth, privilege, and whiteness. What parenthood means to me now, and how I try to catch glimpses of myself despite what feels like not enough bandwidth for my own personal time. How I maybe get depressed because I don’t have enough time to hobby around, finish a book, play my instruments. What it’s like to live with two four year olds and a six year old. What it’s like to be married for 7 years and together for almost 16 and try to have a relationship that sits like a tiny jewel set in a ring of housework and childcare.
What kind of community am I looking to build here?
I think I mostly just want to share words with my IRL friends and have a place to experiment with some writing. And maybe share some family moments too.
I don’t really know! I might post once a month. That’s gonna be my rough plan to start.
here for it